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She might not love all your quirky habits, like how you love to eat peanut butter out of the jar with a fork, but she wouldn’t change you for anything in the world. She isn’t trying to work on you like a pet project, or turn you into another man. The Future Includes Her You might not be planning babies and a white picket fence yet, but if you can imagine a happy life with her then that’s a sure sign she’s the one. If your five-year plan includes some milestones with her at your side, that’s a good indication that she’s becoming a serious part of your lifetime. Comfort Levels are High You feel comfortable with yourself when she’s around. You’re not censoring your words or putting on a false front with her. You can sit together reading book or being completely silent, and it’s not awkward or uncomfortable. You don’t have to entertain her constantly with witty banter or plan activities to fill the uncomfortable spaces. One of the signs shes the one is that two of you can be comfortable together doing just about anything. Jealousy is Low Jealousy levels are one of the signs she’s the one. She doesn’t mind if you go hang out with friends since she also offers a life of her own. Everyone has hobbies and outside interests, and she doesn’t try to be the center of your universe every minute of every day.

She’s secure in the relationship and in herself, so she doesn’t display huge amounts of jealousy over trivial situations. If you have these signs in your relationship, you’re well on your way to having a person who you can spend your lifetime with and a relationship that stands the test of time. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading…ashleymadison Share This Article Facebook5Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Relationships Vomit. That’s about all i will think of if the bus driver in the black dress is the mama… Ewww Today’s piece is a a bit PSA (public service announcement — Wade) and a bit common sense, which as we all know, is too uncommon in these most harsh times. When I was a younger lad, dating, boinking, throwing my sausage down the hallway and otherwise fornicating I found that I would often get caught up in things that didn’t really pertain to me. I cared more than I should have, I guess you could say. Caring and boning.  They are two sides of far different coins. Caring doesn’t get you as far as boning does, if the currency is sexual gratification. Allow me to expand on that (pun intended)…I was going through a point in life where dating was all I wanted to do. I wanted to have sex. That was it and with as many women as a could get into bed without slipping them roofies or similar. Yet I would get caught up in their drama.

You know the kind, baby daddy not paying the child support, the ex who won’t go away or the husband that just doesn’t have a clue. I cared. I’m not sure how or when it happened, but I finally realized that Positive K had it right when he asked “what your man got to do with me?” He was right, alright. None for the drama matters. Why? Because it’s not my job to care, it’s my job to have sex and to sexually stimulate the woman of the day; week; month. I see guys who are going out there to “play the field” and they get caught up in a situation where they get “stuck.” They get stuck in the drama, or in some type of indecisive limbo, paralyzed to do what needs to be done. And for what? Drama and caring too damn much. What should they do, then? Simply put: If you are out there, man or woman, looking to hook up with someone, be focused in your mission and get your f*ck on. Everything else is a courtesy on your part. Pick up your things and go home afterward; snuggling is for sentimentals at this stage in the game. They’ll still be around for a fun romp at some other point. Hook up and shut up.

Leave the drama for someone else’s mama. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships Tagged in: drama, Sex With the world being what it is and being more connected by technology than ever, it’s very easy to stay in touch with people and to make new connections. Social media outlets are one of the main hubs for all of this discussion.  Those are not the only tools, just one of them. With these tools they give life to new and intriguing methods to piss our partners off and inspire new ways to be inconsiderate and, well, an asshole.  Enter “Cyber Cheating.”What the hell is cyber cheating anyway?  I view cyber cheating, really, as an emotional affair with every bit exactly the same level of ramifications of a physical affair.  Sure, maybe there’s no physical contact but that’s not the only real issue that people have with affairs.

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  You see, when someone cheats, sure, there’s a physical connection but there is also an emotional bond created by the cheater and their new toy box. Not only that, the act of cheating really is the actual manifestation of a lack of respect, love, and care for a significant other.  This manifestation is unspoken.  Really, what else need one say? An example of cyber cheating could be I make a connection with a friend’s friend after they post something funny on Facebook.  I friend request them.  So far, no foul, certainly no harm.  Well, what should we think if, while in a relationship, I reach out to this new friend and compliment her photos saying how beautiful I think she is?  Perhaps some witty back and forth messages, some public and some private… Okay, we’re getting closer to the line and flirting with it.

  Then we start having deep conversations and sharing deep feelings and thoughts with one another.   At this point, we’re pretty much straddling the line, or at least I am. It’s the point at which we begin to share feelings for one another and, perhaps, plan times to be online together to talk or what not.  That’s once the line gets crossed. Note that no physical in-person interaction has occurred at this point. Even though no physical discussion has taken place, all the key emotional elements involved with physically cheating are present: Betrayal, Mistrust, Disrespect, Deceit, intimate discourse ( not intercourse, you pervs).  When these things are present in an online relationship then, you bet, that’s cheating.  Pure and simple; cut and dry.

There are grey areas, sure, but there is always a line.  Sure, it’s okay to flirt and such but if you’re not careful it can escalate so quickly… There are warning signs though.  Does your partner seem over protective of their computer and their emails, messages and such?  Do they wait to go online when you’re not around or asleep or otherwise indisposed?  Do they get agitated when you ask them about their online activities?  Do they quickly browse to another site or bring up a different page when you enter the room? These aren’t absolute tell tale signs your significant other is cheating on you, but they are classic trademark signs that something might be up! In the end it doesn’t matter if the cheating is online or offline, cheating is cheating. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook23Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Relationships Tagged in: cheating, Relationships The Usual Holiday Suspects. At least all the Santas had their pants on this year… Happy Christmas Eve, y’all! At the Urban Dater we wish you and yours a very, Merry Christmas and any other coinciding holiday that isn’t, you know, Christmas. However you celebrate and whatever you do, make it awesome and special with loved ones.

Here are a few posts we’ve collected for today (honestly this should have gone out, like, a week ago) take a look and remember, say no to kicking your man in the cho cho. The Christmas Gift Giving Conundrum – Guys, did you piss off your woman? Buy her something sparkly, which will surely distract her from kicking you in the ankle, from our sponsor, Ice.com. Do the Holidays Affect Your Relationship? – Do you are more sex crazed, more prone to Irritable bowel syndrome, or do you just wish it would all go away and also have Santa take a long walk off a short pier? This piece is for you. The Ghost of Christmas Fail – a step by step guide on how you, too, can fail at Christmas by telling someone that you don’t love that you DO love them. Fail. 5 Holiday Date Ideas that Don’t Suck – Do you want to volunteer to feed homeless peeps? Perhaps you want to look at how rich Americans waste electricity with their amazing Christmas light show. Whatever the case we have you covered. Bonus * Take your special someone to see ‘True Grit’ tonight. Nothing says Christmas like a Western with lots of killin’. Have a supa fly Christmas from Taylor and myself, at the Urban Dater. Take it sleazy, kids. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading…

Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Asides So we met online, or at a bar, or maybe you stopped me on the way to the beer garden at a baseball game. Either way, I gave you my digits and with those numbers came an unspoken message: “Use them wisely”. Apple has more recently updated their software to allow me this amazing feature called “Block Caller” which permits me to hand out my number to all potential candidates without repercussion.

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If I don’t like the tone in which I read your initial message i will immediately block your number and pretend it never happened. Guilt free, because at this point I have no idea what awful messages you’re sending me about ignoring you after gifting you my digits. I know, I’m going to Hell. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. This stands true with the wild rollercoaster of text messaging our generation has chosen to ride. Don’t just make a first impression, make a lasting impression. And I use ‘lasting’ loosely…because most of you Bozos leave me with an ever lasting eye roll and a definitive distaste for moving forward with the other sex. As I’ve made it pretty apparent in my last blog post (Why Date Two Is Harder To Score Than Date One) I think it’s important that we are all honest with each other as we untangle the messy web that is dating. Which is why I find it important to tell you what you’re doing wrong before I fly off the radar.

I want you to be a better you for a better…not me. So without further ado…here are the five guys you don’t want to be after graduating to texting: “The Cock Block” I can tell you right now, not a single woman on planet earth gets aroused by unsolicited dick pics. If the first picture you send a woman is a peek-a-boo of your twig and berries, you’ve ultimately cock blocked yourself. Whatever you might want her to stroke, be it your junk or your ego…you’ve set up zero room for healthy conversation.topadultreview.com Where do we go from here? Is this where I send you something in return? Like maybe a snap chat of me crying with laughter over the fact that you shaved your ball hair into a field of razor bumps, or is that herpes? What am I supposed to do with that picture? Put it in my ass?

Whatever brain deficit that propels you gentleman to send us pictures of your baby makers, please find a way to eliminate that. Women are not visual creatures by nature. It’s fucking science. Bill Nye would tell you you’re doing it wrong, and so would I. Don’t even follow-up a dick pic with anything. Just kill yourself. “The Gas Pedal” So, I’m walking away from our numerical exchange…five steps deep and you’re already calling my phone to see if I gave you the right number. That’s cute, girls lie to you. But, now you’re a fucking psycho. Pump the brakes. We have the rest of our lives so that you can suffocate me, please don’t do it within thirty-seven seconds of me leaving your side. All this says to me is “I’m probably going to read your phone when you’re in the shower” and realistically I have enough insecurities, I don’t want a man who can’t trust that I’ll do what I say I’m going to do. You want to strike as the iron is hot, but for Christ’s sake make it at least a twenty-minute rule. Go about your business, finish out your day, follow-up when things slow down for you, and she will respond when things slow down for her. Sending me a text within seconds of getting my number makes it look like you’re standing by your computer, collecting them, ready to bust out a “HEY HOW’S IT GOING??”.

This type is usually the second-string cock blocker. He most likely has a dick pic in his arsenal ready to fire when you bite. You’ve been warned. “The Ask-hole” Oh, I’m sorry…I didn’t know we were playing a rousing game of mash on the playground. Before we channel our pre-teen future life predictions, can you lay off the twenty-one questions so I can finish taking a shower? The Ask-hole will inevitably ask you more questions than you’re prepared to answer. He usually doesn’t have a job, and disregards the fact that you might have better things to do then have a date via writing. I often think this type of guy doesn’t have a lot of friends. He asks me questions because he wants me to ask them in return, and frankly…your favorite color is at the bottom of my interests. The only questions you should be asking after getting my number are “What does your schedule look like? Can I take you out?” Then go buck wild tiger, interview me for your female leading role when we’re face to manage. Rather than a normal one on a single, the ask-hole will make sure that everything he finds out about you is in writing so that he may revert back to it during a heated argument at a later date. You know…when you’ve turned down his unsolicited dick pics, but earlier in the week you answered “Yes” to his question “Are you attracted to me?” “The PunisHER“ Don’t be fooled by this pretentious heart-throb, deep down he’s just a misogynist pig. He’s the guy who feels entitled to receiving all women’s numbers, because in his eyes, he’s that awesome.

After getting your number he will unleash vengeance if you don’t appropriately respond to his sporadic cries for attention. This is the drunk asshole who can’t get his UBER APP to load so he calls you to pick him up downtown before ever even meeting you. If ever there was a first date, it’s now…bro. He usually starts off strong, gets you to fall for his wit and charm, and then puts the nail in the coffin with his “ I was drunk when I swiped right on you” stabs. He usually lies about who’s on the other end of the text message when you receive the Jekyll to his Hyde lashings, but don’t worry his fake personalities will circle back to the one who pretends he’s genuinely into you again. If you’re patient enough, The PunisHER will provide you with the “Cock Blocker” apology screen shot for you and your girlfriends to giggle over for years to come. “The Creep” You’d think this one would go without saying. Except I see this one the most. And I repeat all too frequently “This is why you’re single, dude”. And then he’s at my front door telling me why he’s not as big of a creep as I’ve made him out to be. Full circle.

This guy doesn’t know how to adequately express what he wants, so he just busts a nut trying to impress you. At this point I’ve given you enough signals to be perceived as disinterest and you’re standing there with your proverbial cock in your hand wondering why I won’t just love you. The creep usually offers little to no value for a woman but wants more out of her then she is willing to give. He’s typically not honest about his emotions. He doesn’t get why you won’t respond, so he sends you a dick pic. His non verbal cues will never sync up with his verbal cues and he is forever dubbed “creepy”. Be present, be punctual and be persuasive. Women don’t give out their numbers to just anyone (unless you’re me). It’s a privilege, one with very little room for mistake. Nothing kills my flirt buzz quite like a man who’s the perfect everything…but shits the bed when its text time. Jump through hoops to not be one of the five guys listed above and you will inevitably come out on top. Or bottom. Which ever she prefers.

Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook6Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, Online Dating Tagged in: Online Dating I recently had a conversation with a few colleagues and friends about sending flowers, and they were mostly confused. “5 dozen roses?! That’s a lot! Why so many?” “It has to be a special occasion for me to send roses.” “I don’t want to create the wrong impression. Maybe just a couple dozen roses would do.” I’m realizing what separates the unique from the average is the ability to stray away from the norm. If you have to think about the amount of roses to send, there’s insecurity you’ve created and assumptions you’ve made from others, things you’ve read, etc. What is the difference from one dozen roses to four dozen roses besides saving some money? I will tell you what it is from being in this industry for five years now: how big of a smile you want the other person to have. That’s it. Roses create an impression that other flowers don’t and once you pass 1 dozen roses, it’s purely creating the impression and experience for the other person to have. There’s an apparent “disease” floating in the minds of men which make them think “Oh, 1 dozen means this…and 2 dozen means that…” when it all means the same- You care! If you can afford to make someone smile and create an experience they haven’t had before, why half-ass it? Being a modern-day, Gen Y  florist, I know there’s meaning and depth to what certain flowers mean, or what certain colors dictate. Easy example: If you wanted to express love and passion, the red rose is at the scale, with probably yellow carnations on the bottom.

The rose has an unbelievable amount of natural History where it was even used as a form of monetary currency, once upon a time. It’s been treated as the pinnacle of flowers when it’s put on any scale, but it’s not to say that it’s the only form of expression when it comes to flowers. If you’re deciding to send flowers, then do whatever you think is likely to make them happiest, not deciding the quantity of what they “should” receive. Or in that case, give them a candy bar instead. No, seriously, go buy a bar of chocolate (gift wrap is optional), and give them that. I promise no woman will turn it down. Very few might subconsciously think you’re calling them fat, but for the majority, they’ll take it as a sweet gesture. Like that, you won’t have stress and anxiety climaxing internally as they open a box of roses, and start thinking “Wow, I think he’s really into me!…Let me tell all my friends, post a photo on Instagram, and text him something so he knows I love them!” Mind you, this might be all within 5 minutes. It only builds up for the next couple hours from there. If you’re looking for the “meh” response, go with the candy. You’ll disrespect flowers and the floral community if you’re looking for a “so-so” arrangement. If you’re looking for “meh” in roses, they don’t exist, and I don’t sell them. Good luck.   Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading…

Share This Article Facebook14Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Tips & Advice Tagged in: roses, sending, sending flowers Yes, you read that title right.  If you’re a guy then you need to know and understand that you NEED female friends like the Hamburglar needed to burgle a burger every now and again.  Don’t you want to burgle something sometimes? Guys, you need female friends that you don’t have sex with.  It’s true!  However, why is it true?  My friends, let me tell you about it… I know the value of having female friends, the kind that really are friends.  I’ve written before on how I believe that true friendship between men and women doesn’t really exist.  I maintain that opinion and believe it to be true.  While a true platonic friendship may not be possible, in my opinion, being friends is.  Through the years I’ve amassed a somewhat decent sized network of female friends, some of whom are my very best friends; aka women I haven’t slept with… Actually, recall hearing a guy state that a female friend was simply a woman you haven’t slept with… Interesting.

I don’t think the whole attraction thing ever really dies, I just To better understand why I place such a high value on female friendship, we must briefly travel back in time, when I was a little Urban Dater, knee high to twenty stacked boxes of tampons.  Back then my world consisted of my mother, my grandmother, my Aunt and my cousin; all females, with only my poor grandfather to balance it out… I learned to understand that just because something bled for seven days and didn’t die didn’t mean it was all evil. It just implied that I should do the following: Run.