On OKCupid; We’m male. I do not deliver numerous communications, possibly 3-5 each week & I’m wanting to be selective & make time to re-read a profile and write an “attractive” message. I do not get numerous reactions and i realize that some females have plenty of unsolicited msgs. So they really might be exceptionally selective.

Therefore, somebody awesome reacted and I also delivered an email right straight back later on the exact same time. Just examined: yikes, just a little over an hour or so. Now it has been 2 days & because of OKC’s “last visited” snoop-a-matic, i am aware she actually is been on.

So a) must I have actually waited longer? B) will she respond? (rhetorical: I’m certain i am being impatient) c) the length of time can I wait the next time?

I suppose we really could utilize the time for you to write a draft reaction & allow it sit for dispassionate review.

Present & related: simply closing interaction, callous as it might appear, is really the norm and possibly in fact is a simpler let down than “on 2nd thought perhaps perhaps not interested” message. The 3 time guideline still sort of exists, for a few people, anyway.

I suppose I possibly could make use of the time and energy to write a draft reaction

Oh do not do this — it is obvious, and it surely will oftimes be too much time. That you don’t even understand that which you may be giving an answer to. Chill out, aim for a walk. Move away from your computer or laptop. Never bring your smartphone. Awesome person either will or will likely not react, it really is from the arms now. Posted by desjardins at 1:41 PM on 1, 2011 2 favorites april

Information point: we frequently read communications appropriate away. I never react until when I’ve thought for me to get around to it about it a little, and that bit of procrastination means sometimes it might take a couple days. The timing of my reaction isn’t actually associated with the timing associated with the other individual’s (caveat: we you will need to react to every message we have, and the impression is had by me that isn’t the norm). Do not stress down way too much about this.

Additionally, exactly just exactly what Lyn Never Ever stated. Published by Vibrissa at 1:51 PM on April 1, 2011 1 favorite

If someone writes if you ask me and it is interesting, i simply simply take in regards to a to respond day. I’ll go through the man or woman’s profile and then think about a thoughtful response, particularly into the message that is first. I am going to generally reduce steadily the time taken between communications in the future.

If We compose somebody first, We often simply take things in the responder’s rate. If it took 2 times for the man to answer me personally, i am going to wait at the very least per day to publish to him. I do not desire to overwhelm individuals.

We often feel overrun when people react too rapidly.

It really is a tricky situation and I do not understand all of the proper responses. I experienced also toyed using the concept of asking the same concern to yours to obtain an over-all opinion of whether I’m following etiquette that is online dating. Published by parakeetdog at 1:52 PM on April 1, 2011

So a) must I have actually waited longer? B) will she respond?

A) probably maybe maybe perhaps not b) possibly posted by empath at 1:52 PM on April 1, 2011 3 favorites

We get e-mail observe that We have new okc messages and certainly will sometimes make use of the mobile site to learn a brand new message. OKC implies that we’ve logged on, but I never compose reactions from my phone – that takes place in the week-end once I can log into my desktop computer. But I want to look at the inbox just in case a date cancelled, etc.

We don’t/wouldn’t read any such thing into response times. Do not write a reply to an email you have not seen yet. Otherwise, anything you’re saying seems good. Anecdotally, we often have a very first contact reply rate of 20-30%, i believe that is fairly normal.

Ideally you feel much better now you have got a lot of near-instant askme reactions.: ) published by momus_window at 1:58 PM on 1, 2011 april

That you do not wish to consistently react to the same individual within one hour, since that may conjure a graphic of some guy desperately sitting around on OKCupid 24/7 prepared to immediately answer any person in the contrary intercourse who deigns to create to him.