For most of us, Tinder is merely about fucking, yet not for all. All photos by writer

Tinder may be the generation that is hook-up GPS for banging. It is fast, convenient, and offers use of seeing a person that is new IRL. Will it be primarily to have laid? For myself & most individuals I understand, that answer is really a noisy and inarguable “clearly.”

But search through Tinder on any provided and you’ll find people who disagree day. Marked with bios that read “No hook-ups, swipe left bitch!” (genuine message within the bio of someone we matched with), you can find individuals regarding the application whom legitimately state they truly are instead of here for a fast orgasm. Some state they desire friends, or long-lasting relationships, while some would like to steer clear of the emotional chaos of fuck-and-chuck culture that is hook-up. Wondering a little more, I asked some females we matched with why they are not down with hookups.

Fatima, 19, Pupil

VICE: If you don’t hook-ups, what exactly are you interested in on Tinder? Fatima: in all honesty, to start with, I became down for whatever, but after per year of going crazy, we told myself my 2nd 12 months of university that i simply desired a boyfriend. [That’s] why I place no hook-ups. We’m still lowkey down [to hook-up], but We’d go for somebody long-lasting than the usual stand that is one-night.

Ended up being here such a thing in particular that turned you faraway from hook-up tradition? not enough appealing guys i assume. Every man I was down for lived too much if I wanted to have a friends with benefits with [somebody], before I could say anything, he was gone for me to travel and every close guy was a fuck boy, so even.

Have actually you had any fortune with meaningful dates through right here yet? Well, I became a child that is sheltered going down to university and being free—we went crazy with hook-ups, also my man friends would provide me props and state we’m their idol. [That said], we thought we had one one other day—I happened to be generally not very ready to do anything but perhaps a make-out sesh. It was thought by me went great while the man stated he previously enjoyable too, then again he ignored me personally and I also finally got an answer from him that has been, “It is maybe maybe not the things I’m set for,” which sucked.

Would you get responses that are negative dudes learn you’re maybe perhaps perhaps not into just setting up straight away? Not necessarily. We [only] recently began switching individuals down, and I also’ve been performing a job that is horrible you are feeling?

I actually do. At the least you are attempting! What is your perfect non-hook-up date, when there is one? Nothing fancy really. I am maybe perhaps not really a particular individual. Like, as long as we’m using them, we’re able to do just about anything also it’d be fine. But probably away from a bed room will be well. [laughs]

Tiffanie, 20, Swim Coach

VICE: Your bio claims to “swipe kept” if some body really wants to hook-up. Why? Tiffanie: Tinder hook-ups aren’t good I think. Which is simply my estimation. I believe it is offering yourself brief.

Just just just What would you suggest by that? I do not know. Like, that you do not understand these folks. That alone makes me personally skeptical of meeting up with someone. Why would i do want to bang them off the bat? it generally does not add up. It isn’t safe either.

So, are you currently against all hook-ups or simply just quick, quick hook-ups? Like, could you carry on a date with someone after which possibly hook-up afterward? Without a doubt, nevertheless they’d need to introduce it as a night out together and I also’d need to like them. If somebody’s simply set for intercourse, that is not one thing i am confident with. They are able to do this on the very very own some time i am okay I just don’t really want to [be involved] in that sort of thing with it.

What is your experience on Tinder been like? It has been good—i have met people that are great here. We have a few friends now because we met on Tinder. There is a man I became seeing for a little off here, but we are not any longer together. We nevertheless talk.

Tinder is generally speaking offered as main into the “Netflix and Chill” deal. Can you state it is built primarily for hook-ups and fast intercourse? I do not think therefore, at the very least, maybe perhaps not if you ask me. It’s a actually quick option to fulfill individuals, but it is not like, overly-sexualized, y’know? The[basis that is only for liking one another is look and a bit in your bio, and that means you know an individual believes you are hot or attractive, but that is about any of it. I do believe lots of my buddies are appealing, and I also think I prefer them more due to that, but does which means that I would like to have intercourse using them? No.

Whitney, 19, Shopping

VICE: whenever did you pop over to tids website begin to use Tinder? Whitney: we started Tinder that is using when first split up with my boyfriend in might 2014. We have been on and off ever since but we’m because I think [he] and I are officially done on it again.

Why did you select the no hook-up policy on right here? Well, I don’t think starting up along with other dudes could be the way that is right conquer somebody. It simply eventually ends up making me feel disgusted and upset with myself.

Maybe you have utilized Tinder for hook-ups within the past? No, we ordinarily utilized Tinder simply to satisfy brand new individuals, but often it results in hook-ups. Now i recently have a tendency to avoid it.

How about starting up casually allows you to feel bad about your self? Within the past, I would personally’ve utilized setting up to help make me feel complete. We have actuallyn’t been “alone” in 36 months, then when I happened to be, starting up with somebody ended up being the real option to go—especially with my close man buddies. Fundamentally people started calling me personally a whore, and I also became a thing that i did not wish to be any longer. I assume i am attempting to deal with being solitary by maybe perhaps not starting up with individuals any longer, [so i am] looking for a distraction that is new my entire life.

Regarding the reverse side, has anyone got angry you did not wish to hook-up? No, I’ve never actually had anybody get angry at me personally, that will be variety of astonishing as it’s Tinder.

Karen, 19, Undeclared

VICE: Alright, me asking, why don’t you have ‘No hook-ups’ in your bio? Karen: Well, just because I’m not on Tinder for hook-ups doesn’t mean I’m opposed to it if you don’t. Like, my basic motive on Tinder is merely to speak to cool individuals, but then maybe I would if a hook-up becomes a thing.